Dear Me~

So you’ve met the man of your dreams, and the wedding is being planned.

First of all….think carefully before having grass seed thrown at you instead of rice or bird seed….it sticks to everything and is much like sand when you come home from the beach. You will find it in places that grass seed should not go! Just saying.

Enjoy your time with him now, as limited as it is, because in about ten years, you will quickly become ships passing in the night. Your love will still be there for him, but your time with him will sometimes be fleeting. You will find little ways to stay in contact, like texting him to let him know that a storm is moving in and he needs to take cover, or running to meet him someplace where a car can go on the course to hand a sandwich of some sort out the window so that he can continue spraying that fungus that won’t go away.

Be prepared for the massive amounts of laundry. He will come home soaking wet only to change clothes and get soaked again. Everything will be covered in dye. Clothing will get ruined, so save your money if you can and send him to good will. Laundry may make it home, but may not make it inside until he can’t fit anymore in his car/cart. It will get done…eventually. If he can wait to bring it in, you can wait to do it…that is if you can stand the smell.

Weekends will be non existant, so enjoy your time sleeping in before you have kids, but you will have to become very creative to get any sleep after those little bundles of screams arrive. When children do come into the picture, he may be able to help with early morning feedings, but don’t always count on it. If he’s a trooper and tries you may have to go out and wake him up to start his early morning routine. Don’t be afraid to take the kids on adventures without your MoT. You brought them into the world, you can certainly handle taking them out in it to enjoy….at least most of the time.

Your dinners will become handfuls of cereal because by the time you get everyone else fed and cared for on his late nights, you really don’t want a full meal at that time of night. It will be seen as a great weight loss plan at times.

Figure out how to be comfortable by yourself, because you will spend a lot of time on your own. It isn’t  a bad thing to be by yourself, you did it in your single days. Most people when getting married lose touch with some of their friends, you, however need to work hard to maintain those relationships so that you have a support system in place for when you are lonely waiting for him to come home.

Most importantly, don’t sit at home waiting for him to go and do something because you will spend the majority of your time waiting and watching your life pass by. Life was meant to be lived, so go out and live it. Your children will learn a valuable lesson from you doing this…they will learn to be strong independent individuals that will not need to rely on anyone to be able to find their own happiness, and ultimately, that is one of the best lessons you can teach those tiny energy siphoning humans.

Remember who you are, and who you were before you found that handsome devil in a golf cart, and you will be fine. Just remember, no marriage is sunshine and rainbows all the time, and into every life a little rain must fall.  If you allow it, your life will become stormy as all get out, but if you stop and re-read this….several times, you will find a way to weather the storm.

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